Wedding Etiquette: UnPlugged Wedding

Hopefully, by now you’ve heard about “unplugged weddings”. It is the latest trend in weddings for good reason.

Many brides have a love/hate relationship with social media on their big day. You want every possible moment captured, even the silly shots of everyone rushing to get ready. You may not want those photos shared on social media before the ceremony. You have to put a lock down on your wedding party and hope they respect your wishes. They just want to share photos of themselves and the person they love on one of the biggest days of their lives. This is totally understandable, but you want to keep a little mystery so you can show off all your planning.

What about your guests taking photos during the ceremony? This might be a great option for candid shots, but what if they are more of a distraction? The guests may be blocking someone else’s view or worse.  What if they block one of the professional shots?

Enter the unplugged wedding. So many brides have decided to ask their guests to please hold their photography during the wedding. Some brides post signs that politely ask for their guest’s full attention. But some people are still upset when asked to refrain. So let’s discuss a few of the reasons behind why the couple may choose to make that decision.

It’s THEIR Day

You know that it’s their day and you are there to support them. You love them and would never do anything to detract from their wedding! These phone photography fiends are often well meaning. But if you are watching the wedding through the screen of your phone, you will miss the true beauty and love of the couple you’re celebrating. Your phone may also be blocking someone else’s view, which causes them to miss out. Well intentioned photography can be a big distraction, so just sit back and enjoy.

Photographers and Videographers Are a Big Investment

No matter what your wedding budget is, photography and videography will be a big part of that. These professionals work tirelessly to preserve your special day. After spending several hours capturing the priceless wedding moments, they begin the grueling editing process. They want everything to be absolutely perfect. Hands holding cell phones block an otherwise good photograph. You can’t prepare for it and it’s hard to work around, especially if you have 20-30 people snapping photos as the bride is walking down the aisle. Arms and phones could go directly into the line of site for the videographer or photographer. There would be no way to edit it without losing one of the most anticipated moments of the wedding.

So the moral here is simple. You may mean well and only want to share in the joy. But no matter how discreet, the chances of your floating arm or bright flash being caught by the photographer or videographer are high. So if the couple has asked you to put your phones away, love them enough to respect their wishes and enjoy their day as they intended.